When Sleeping Women Wake Mountains Do Move
As a woman, I am aware
of the miraculous and serendipitous events happening everywhere and
throughout my life. They are happening on my job, in my
business, in my personal life, through the people that I am meeting,
through the people that I am connected to, through my writing, and
through the awakening that I see in my community and in the world.
I see a revolution or
an evolution of an expanded consciousness and a reawakening of our
souls. The events taking place have been both beautiful and painful
to watch and to be a part of because the unfortunate truth is that
there can be no revolution or evolution without conflict, resistance,
or the willingness to be uncomfortable. In other words, there
is a lot of fighting going on! The ego is losing its mind!
I believe there are
things happening below the surface that we can not begin to
understand which is why I caution against judging them. Under the
surface there is a pot that is bubbling over. Through the
expanded consciousness of Love permeating those dark, dormant, and
conflicted areas, there is a rumbling, a roaring, a quaking, and
often violent stirrings of emotions waiting for us to hear/taste her
goodness and all the flavors that have gone unnoticed. Love is
causing us to pay attention.
I also believe that now
is the time for all of us to assume our positions with unadulterated
service. If you write-write! If you pray-pray! If you
meditate-meditate! If you are a peace maker-spread peace! If
you are a coach- coach! If you are a builder-build! If
you are an ideas person-spread ideas! If you are a giver-give!
If you are a nurturer-nurture! If you are safe space- be
that for those who need it! If you are a gardener- plant a
garden! If you are militant- take action! If you are a
teacher-teach! If you are a light worker- stay in the Light and
spread It! If you holding space-keep holding it! Hold the
world in the bosom of unconditional love. Hold the vision for
peace! And above all- Be the change that you wish to see in
the world!
It's no wonder that I
use to think that I had to fight for everything. I had to fight
for my life. Fight to be heard. Fight for my rights.
Fight for the right to be. Fight for love. Fight
for my relationships. Fight, fight, fight... My ego was
in turmoil! Traumatized at the thought of losing herself, of
not being heard- of becoming me.
Originally from New
Orleans and at 46, I recently looked at my birth certificate. Through my parents, I am a documented Negro. With all of the social movements taking place, many
of which are being led by youth, seeing my ethnicity marked at birth
reminded of the times I've grown up in. It also reminded me of
my childhood and the fact that I was a rebellious and angry child,
who grew up to be rebellious and angry teenager! Now that I have
children of my own, I know that though I was able to mask my anger
with passive aggressive behavior, my mother knew. She could feel it!
Forgive me mom! I now understand!
A book should not
be judged by it's cover and nor should the innocence of youth. For
the things that happen beneath the surface- the things that we can't
see - far exceed those that we can see. The law of correspondence
reveals, As above, so below; As below, so above. The harmonious
marriage and truth is that there is no separation between the two
worlds Eventually, who we are comes out- or up- for healing. The pot
eventually boils over.
I was smart, gifted,
black, and beautiful. I was angry about a lot of things. After my
family won a fund raising pageant while I was in nursery school, I
was crowed queen for that year in 1974. On the day of the pageant, I
remember feeling special as I wore a hand beaded gown that my
grandmother made for me. Shortly after, my mom and dad divorced. I
was molested by a female caregiver and relative from the time I was
four. No one knew. (Queens don't get molested.) I
watched my mom struggle to make ends meet. I don't remember
toys growing up. I loved my dad, but he was on drugs and made a
lot of promises to me that he couldn't keep. They fought. My
mom got a new man and we moved away. (From New Orleans to
Philadelphia). For a while I hated both of them. I hated
all of them. I no longer felt special. I learned to stuff my
emotions and put the needs of others above my own including my need
to be heard. I walked in shame carrying the secret of
molestation. I hated doing dishes. While in Philly, as it
turned out we were squatters in a blighted house. I remember
life without electricity. I remember burning candles. I felt poor,
but my mom taught that being poor was a state of mind. I walked to
school but it was my escape. And, in the six grade I won a student
government election and became the first female president and then me
moved again (Delaware) before I could start my term. I didn't
know why I was born. Then, my great grandmother, Big Mama, died
and we moved back to New Orleans.
In my father's absence,
my step dad, Abu, became a hero. He was a reformed militant who had
Rastafarian energy and brought culture and social awareness into my
life. He was a street merchant who earned a living from making
jewelry and other creative ventures. I began learning about other
religions. And though I felt different, I was taught to be a leader
and not a follower. I was a hippie gypsy who to this day people call
flower child. But I felt out of place and just wanted to fit in. I
also knew that there were things that were happening around me and in
my community that weren't fair. I was a book worm but I hated
history in school because I knew that I was not being taught the
truth.
Depression found me and
hit me like a ton of bricks. For a while I didn't know what it was
and I suffered in silence until my boiling point came when in my last
year of junior high school, I attempted suicide. I overdosed on
pills that I found in our medicine cabinet, passed out on my front
porch, lay unconscious until I was found, and had my stomached pumped
to save my life. It was my turning point! It was anger turned
inward and though it put a serious strain on the relationship I had
with my mother, probably reminding her of everything she thought she
had done wrong, it became my saving grace.
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there is meat to this before and after story where books and more
blogs are being born. In the meantime, know that when sleeping women
awake, mountains do move. Women are at the center of this movement. Love is the movement! Love has commanded my attention by
permeating those dark, fearful, and conflicted areas within me.
Through my own awareness and expanding consciousness, I am becoming
more of who I am. I am a warrior! Multifaceted, multidimensional, I
am a work in progress who is also becoming an expert in the field of
personal growth and development. I am grateful that over the years I
am learning to get still. I am learning to listen. I am
learning to be patient. I am learning to raise my words and not just
my voice. I am learning Peace.
Peace has reveled that
I no longer need to fight for anything. Peace had revealed that
through this path that I have chosen, I don't have to fight anymore.
I only need to get still, breathe, put one foot in front to the
other, follow that still small voice within, be present in the
moment, drink water, and through the spiritual lubricant of grace,
trust the process.
I am alive!
I am a queen!
I am grateful beyond
measure!
With Love,
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